A condom is an ultra thin tube made of latex rubber that is rolled on over a hard penis. Condoms prevent the exchange of bodily fluids during sex. But, it is still possible to contract herpes, warts, and syphilis even when a condom is on because it only covers the shaft, and these STIs are transmitted by skin-to-skin contact. The cervix or anus and the penis are protected by a condom but surrounding skin is not.
Putting on the condom
- Wait until the penis is completely hard before putting the condom on.
- When opening the condom wrapper take care not to damage the condom with your teeth or fingernails.
- If the client is uncircumcised (uncut) carefully pull the foreskin back before rolling on the condom.
- Squeeze the teat of the condom between your thumb and forefinger so the air can escape. Leave space at the teat to catch semen.
- If the condom is inside-out and has touched the head of the penis, throw it out and use another.
- Make sure the condom covers the whole penis by pushing it down right to the base.
After he cums, immediately:
- hold onto the base of the condom while the client withdraws—if you wait until the penis is soft, the condom can slip off or spill sperm
- tie the end of the condom
- put the condom in tissues and put it in the bin.
Remember: Never reuse condoms.
Handy condom hints
- Shop around to find condoms to suit you and your clients’ needs. If you work in a parlour, chat to your co-workers about what condom sizes, thicknesses and brands need to be provided by management so staff can do their work safely.
- Use a lubricated condom and add lube as well.
- Check the expiry date on the condom package.
- Try to use your own condoms and lube rather than the client’s, because you know where yours have been.
- Store condoms in a safe cool place protected from sharp objects—not loose in your bag with things like pens, pins or nail files.
- Never use two condoms on top of each other. It may seem safer but it’s not. The condoms will rub against each other and slide off more easily. One condom is the safest, and it’s all you need.
- Use a new condom each time you change between vaginal or anal intercourse and after oral sex.
- Use a new condom for each person in a group sex scene.
- Throw out used condoms in a rubbish bin. Never try to flush them down the toilet.
- Wash hands after disposing of a condom.
- If a condom breaks, get a check up after seven days—or earlier if symptoms develop.
- Use condoms on sex toys if they aren’t your own, or when using them on clients.
Putting a condom on with your mouth
Putting a condom on with your mouth can make condom use more erotic.
- Make sure the condom is on the right way around and will unroll. The curled rim is on the outside.
- Put the condom in your mouth with the teat facing the back of your throat.
- Allow the condom to sit below your front teeth, between your gums and inside your bottom lip. Practise talking to your client with the condom in this position.
- Move it with your tongue to the front of your mouth, between your teeth and lips, with the tip touching the teeth. Be careful because jagged or chipped teeth may break the condom.
- Squeeze the tip of the condom to remove the air by flattening the teat between your tongue and the roof of your mouth.
- Using your mouth, place the rim of the condom around the tip of the penis and push the condom down using your lips.
Protect yourself with the condom. Do not allow your mouth to touch any part of the penis shaft or surrounding areas. Try it with a regular or a client you feel comfortable with.
Also don’t be afraid to suck hard in a slow or fast motion. Use your tongue to play with his protected penis. When doing ‘deep throat’, keep your nose in the air to open up your throat and choose a position which feels most comfortable for you.
Dams are rectangular sheets of latex that are super thin and flavoured. They are used for vaginal, anal and oral protection. They stretch to cover the vulva and anal areas. Anal rimming (licking) is a popular service for clients. Or they might ask to go down on you. In these situations use a dam or cut a condom up the middle to flatten it out.
To improve sensitivity, use a little water-based lube on the body side of the dam. Don’t swap sides of the dam and don’t use the dam for more than one area, because this could transmit infections. Use a new dam for each person, as you would a condom.
If the client wants to go down on you, hold the dam with your hands, or use a suspender belt or special dam belt if you have access to one. Female workers can sit on a corner of the dam and use one hand to hold the other corner so the dam is covering you securely—your other hand is then free to play with your client while they lick you.
If you are going down on the client, hold the dam firmly with your hands and stretch it out to cover the client’s pussy, arse or balls.
Latex gloves can be used to protect your hands if you have any cuts or broken skin. Gloves prevent bacteria or viruses entering the blood stream, especially when doing hand relief.
If you choose to provide fisting and fingering as a service, you should always use gloves. Cuts or sores on your hand could be small and difficult to see. Gloves also protect the person being fisted, because they can help stop fingernails from tearing the soft lining of the anus or vagina.
Remember: the more the service focuses on the client’s body, the less wear and tear on your own!